Teddy arrived 3 weeks ago and I have had so many thoughts and expierences that I want to share! But as any mom knows, having a newborn and a toddler do not lend much time to dedicated writing. My experience with this baby was completely different than my experience with Vincent and that has allowed me to do things like go out on my anniversary 5 days after having a baby…
I received lots of praise for getting out so soon after baby was born, and while I totally love people telling me how awesome I am, I want to make sure everyone ( especially first time new moms) understands why I was able to do this.
somehow we lucked out and got a newborn that sleeps 3 hours at a time. This was not the case with Vincent. Vincent ate every 2 hours around the clock for the first 8 weeks. It was awful and since feedings took like 45 minutes I slept maybe an hour at a time. Let me tell you, there is a huge difference between 1 hr and 2. 5 hours of sleep! So if you are a new mom ( or dad supporting a new mom) and you just can’t imagine doing anything besides watch netflix and nap all day long, that’s totally normal ! And it’s what I did with my first. ( and some days I wish I could still do that all day long )
2. Having Breastfed Before
BFing is way easier the second time around, or at least it has been for me and Teddy. I think having done it before I am just more confident and know what to expect for both myself and baby. Breastfeeding was so hard with Vincent those first 8 weeks. I felt like all I did was sit around and try to keep him awake so he would nurse. Most of the time I can wake Teddy up enough to get a good nursing session in and I feel like it has made a huge difference .
3. Living with Parents
Living with my folks has made such a difference in my post partum experience . We haven’t had to worry about things like meal planning or grocery shopping so I can just focus on figuring out being a mom of 2. Having extra adults also means there are plenty of people to entertain the toddler or hold the newborn so you can do normal things like shower.
4. Having your husband around the first 10 days
Bryan was in school when we had Vincent and he was in the middle of a semester when he arrived. He had to go back to school literally he day after we beought Vincent home from the hospital . Living far away from family, I just didn’t have a lot of resources so I was alone a lot. Having Bryan at the house made a huge difference !! He took the baby so I could nap or shower. I was so thankful for this time together as a family.
So anyway, I just wanted you guys to know what is going on behind the scenes of those pictures. Also, we were gone for maybe an hour because baby has to eat! I am so thankful for how well everything has gone with this baby, but I am prepared if it all changes tomorrow!
Thanks for all of the encouragement you guys have given over the past several weeks! I can’t wait to write more and keep you guys in the loop!